Sunday, November 27, 2005

Long Week Gone By..........

This is a somber post, but it's all in the past now. I try to keep this blog from being a personal reflection of who I "really" am. I try to keep it a bit anonymous, but in order to tell you of my comings and goings the last week, I might need to let out a little bit of myself.

Last Sunday I went to see my friend that was diagnosed with cancer about a month ago. She wasn't looking well, I stayed and visited an hour. She was on oxygen and could barely speak, her voice was so faint, you had to literally lean in to hear what she was saying. She would just stare off into the distance, as though she were remembering something. I'm not sure if she knew what we were saying, but I knew she knew who I was. When I went to leave she said to me, "Thanks for coming, it was good to see you again." Little did I know that those would be the last words she would ever speak to me again. She died the following night. She was 66 years old.

I only found out on Wednesday that she had passed away. I was the one at my workplace that somehow got designated to pass the word, send out the email and pick the flowers that were to be sent to her family. I didn't mind at all. I barely got anywork done, but it was what had priority that day.

Last Monday I celebrated Thanksgiving dinner w/ my family. It was small and quaint, like every other year. It's good to have traditions.

Friday I had relatives in town. Cousins. Everyone has there "favorite" family member on either parents side. These would be my favorite cousins on my mothers side. I only get to see them if I'm lucky once a year and there was a new little girl added to the family in June and I got to meet her. It was nice to just sit around a fireplace drinking beers and rehashing the same stories we always share when we reunite. I had a very relaxing time and some good laughs. I love traditions!

Saturday was pretty much a lazy day. I only got out of bed to eat lunch, then I napped again, got out of bed to eat dinner w/ friends, back into bed for the night.

Today, I did some much needed housework and then went to the viewing of my friend who had passed. I only stayed about 10 minutes. I gave my condolences and left. I still haven't processed it all I guess. She was more than a friend, she was like a grandma to me. I will miss her.

I'm still on blog hiatis for a while. I'll post if anything earth shattering happens. It's just been an emotional week for me and with the holidays coming I am going to be busy on all of the weekends until the new year. I welcome the holidays, Christmas is ranked right up there after my birthday. Well technically my bday is not a holiday, but it should be : )

And that is what you have missed in the week gone by.

6 Comments:

Blogger Hyde said...

I'm so sorry about your friend. Let me know if there's anything I can do.

Glad you had a sweet Thanksgiving.

:)

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November 28, 2005 1:10 PM  
Blogger Charby said...

So sorry to hear about your friend. Cancer's such a bitch huh?
My Dad does that stare into the distance thing, its a little freaky to see!

November 28, 2005 4:34 PM  
Blogger Alecya G said...

I am so sorry darling. I know how hard this is on you.

If there is anything I can do, please let me know. Drop me an email or pop online and IM, I'll be there.

*huge hug*

November 28, 2005 5:20 PM  
Blogger Flash said...

Hugs baby, I'm sorry about your loss.

xx

November 29, 2005 3:07 PM  
Blogger Chapstick said...

Close Faimly friend of mine was just diagnosed with breast cancer, of which her mother had died at the age of 42. Hope things get better, sunshine.

And I've moved. http://saladtaxi.blogspot.com/

November 29, 2005 6:09 PM  
Blogger windhowl said...

it is wonderful she had friends like you who cared enough to be there with her in those last few hours.

December 02, 2005 3:57 PM  

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