Question?
Question?
What if your best friend asks you to be her maid of honor in her wedding, but you hate her fiance, and dis approve of the whole event.
1. Do you suck it up and go and keep your mouth quiet, for the sake of your best friend.
2. Do you tell her you won't be in the wedding but you will attend.
3. Do you tell her your true opinions of the scumbag she is about to marry, and you don't even want to witness such an event.
Well, what would you do?
What if your best friend asks you to be her maid of honor in her wedding, but you hate her fiance, and dis approve of the whole event.
1. Do you suck it up and go and keep your mouth quiet, for the sake of your best friend.
2. Do you tell her you won't be in the wedding but you will attend.
3. Do you tell her your true opinions of the scumbag she is about to marry, and you don't even want to witness such an event.
Well, what would you do?
posted by sunshine at 12:25 PM
8 Comments:
Hard one...don't have anything to say on it because I have to admit that my best friend would probably already know how I felt about her fiance because I have a hard time not letting my dislike for people show, especially when they are around my peeps.
option 2!
Yup, option two.
Many years ago when Funny Dance married Negative IQ, I told him before he had chance to ask me that I would not be best man for him on the grounds that I didn't like his wife to be & that he was stupid for marrying her.
He respected that & I was vindicated when divorce time came along.
I would tell her how I felt about him, but that said, I would still be in the wedding. Maybe I'm a pushover in some situations, but she's still your best friend and it's still an important day for her, and she's going to marry him either way, right? I just think friends have to stand by and watch their friends fuck up and love them through it and then help them patch it up when things go wrong.
I had a similar dilemma when VJ wanted to get her ex's first and last name tattooed across her (you can guess where!) I majorly disapproved, but I went with her anyway because she was nervous.
Of course, they broke up a few weeks later.
That's just me though...
-h
Oooh where Hyde? The minds boggling!
I may be too late but I say option 4: tell her you don't like the guy but offer your support if she wants it.
honesty is your best policy!!!
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I have been in this situation before - I told her that I would not be in the wedding, but did attend the wedding. I think she respected that. I really despised her husband- to be!
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