Retrospect
Last night I was blog surfing and I fell upon a young man who is going to college in FL. He was sad because no one had looked at his profile and so I did and I IM'd him to let him know I had. That sparked a very long, very interesting conversation between us. I now consider him my friend.
Anyway.
He has me doing some thinking. He is always dwelling on ladies and ex girlfriends and living in the past when it comes to relationships, yet everything else in his life is going forward. Now this post is not about him, it's about me, so here are my thoughts.
I don't want to be with any of my ex's in anyway other than friends. I don't want them physically or emotionally. I just need to know that I left things on good terms. I have done this with all except my X. Atleast I think I have, maybe I just think that way. The point is, when something is over, it's over. I mean if there was really going to be any hope of getting back together, why would you split in the first place. Any relationship that last at least 6 months is one that you should know the person well enough to know if you have a future or any similiar interests or not. Unless you have to move for school or a job, those might be the only two exceptions for getting back together with an ex. If you make the concious decision to leave someone you have been with for atleast 6 months, then it is a decision you have obviously thought long and hard enough about.
Maybe I'm all wrong. You tell me. Have you or would you ever get back together with an ex from your past. Not just for a good time or one night, but try to put the pieces of your relationship back together?
I have one guy from my past, from a long time ago, who I would love to spend just one night with, but that's it. He's not dating material. Other than that, I'm leaving my ex's in the past, right where they belong. Don't get me wrong, they are all still very special in their own ways to me, but I don't need them in my life anymore on a constant basis, but it's nice to know if I ever saw them out in public, I could nod my head in acknowledgment that I know them, and it wouldn't be uncomfortable.
That's it for today. Another man in love with me story another day. There aren't that many, really. I wish there were more. Maybe I'll get a confession soon.
Anyway.
He has me doing some thinking. He is always dwelling on ladies and ex girlfriends and living in the past when it comes to relationships, yet everything else in his life is going forward. Now this post is not about him, it's about me, so here are my thoughts.
I don't want to be with any of my ex's in anyway other than friends. I don't want them physically or emotionally. I just need to know that I left things on good terms. I have done this with all except my X. Atleast I think I have, maybe I just think that way. The point is, when something is over, it's over. I mean if there was really going to be any hope of getting back together, why would you split in the first place. Any relationship that last at least 6 months is one that you should know the person well enough to know if you have a future or any similiar interests or not. Unless you have to move for school or a job, those might be the only two exceptions for getting back together with an ex. If you make the concious decision to leave someone you have been with for atleast 6 months, then it is a decision you have obviously thought long and hard enough about.
Maybe I'm all wrong. You tell me. Have you or would you ever get back together with an ex from your past. Not just for a good time or one night, but try to put the pieces of your relationship back together?
I have one guy from my past, from a long time ago, who I would love to spend just one night with, but that's it. He's not dating material. Other than that, I'm leaving my ex's in the past, right where they belong. Don't get me wrong, they are all still very special in their own ways to me, but I don't need them in my life anymore on a constant basis, but it's nice to know if I ever saw them out in public, I could nod my head in acknowledgment that I know them, and it wouldn't be uncomfortable.
That's it for today. Another man in love with me story another day. There aren't that many, really. I wish there were more. Maybe I'll get a confession soon.
posted by sunshine at 1:25 PM
7 Comments:
After thinking a long time the answer is no, not any more.
A couple of guys I had near-misses with I'd like the chance to see what could have happened, but I guess everyone has that.
Ugh. I can't think or talk about ex's right now. I woke up in tears this morning over the last one. Must have been my dreams...
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Nope. Completely nope. Its always over for a reason. However small, it ended. Try to be kind, try to be patient or [in some cases] try not to want to kill them, and then move on. Not worth the pain or the heartache you'll deal with. Promise.
Never go back, isn't that what they say?
I have only one I would be with again but I was never really with her in the first place.
You know.
I think that every relationship is unique, and so are the outcomes. I never close the door on anyone. Who knows? Falling in love with the same person twice is not new.
Never say never. My grandfather married his high school sweetheart when they were in their late 50s.
Still it is unlikely that I would ever reconnect in that way with an old love.
i guess it depends on how the relationship went the first time around and how the two people feel about each other. everybody is different. i guess everything ends for a reason. then again sometimes things are better the second time around. Mmmmm
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